When Beauty Is Painful

24 01 2010

I remember many moons ago when I worked with children, I wore these really cute sandals one day to compliment my outfit. Now I knew this wasn’t a smart decision to wear uncomfortable shoes because with children you’re always on your feet but I adored the rave reviews I received from my co-workers so it balanced out. By the end of my day, I could barely move because my feet were extremely swollen and it was so painful to walk. I embraced it and took my bus ride home…practically begging for a seat and when I finally got one, it offered temporary relief. When my stop came and I stood up, my feet were numb and I could barely move. I slowly walked home and winced with each painful baby-step. I watched people as they walked pass me but I couldn’t move too fast from the menacing pain. I wanted to take off my sandals but was afraid to walk barefoot on the ground. By the time I reached my building I had enough and removed them but it didn’t offer any relief. My feet were swollen, blistered, and cut in fragile places; most of all, I couldn’t walk as a result. Of course the next day I couldn’t stand so I had to call out. I vividly recall what the principal said when I called in, “Shani, beauty is painful.” Back then I never really grasped that concept because it was a rare occasion that I would allow my vanity to override my comfort. Today, I fully understand the meaning of her statement. With so many celebrities going under the knife or conducting some sort of cosmetic surgery for the sake of their beauty, my principal’s words hold validity.

Heidi Montag is the latest celebrity to go public with her painful beauty journey…again! On her first trip many critics praised Heidi’s new look and actually said she looked better. According to them, her nose was perfected and buxom was added to her boobage. What ever happened to using make up to enhance features and where is the Wonder Bra for that extra boost to the cleavage?

Now on her encore round of surgeries, many critics are insisting that Heidi has become a cosmetic surgeon’s dream…someone who enjoys wasting money to have countless tweakings. And in my opinion, this blasphemy is totally unnecessary! What’s incredibly sad is how deluded Heidi is about her spirituality on reversing her looks which inevitably makes her seem older than 23 years. And the stress she puts her body through to look what she thinks is beautiful…is just sickening. Again another celebrity is sending a self-defecating message to younger legions of fans that they can alter what they think are imperfections. Let’s also remind them about the people who lost their lives to look beautiful and the pain that their families felt when those changes were final.


The 2 Faces of Lil’ Kim

10 04 2009

Lil Kim is the main reason why I’ve been continuously watching this season’s Dancing With The Stars. Her first performance was good; actually captivating, because I’ve never seen Kim dance before. I’ve seen her body-bopping in her videos but I wouldn’t categorize that as really dancing. Nevertheless, Kim has continued to astound me each week with her graceful agility and her refreshing humbleness. I’m very proud of her dance floor achievements and have high hopes for Kim to win. Or at least come in second place next to Gilles Marini who is a heavy contender and has made a habit of steaming up the screen since his performance in the Sex And The City movie. Ladies, you remember that outdoor shower scene don’t you?


On the other hand, what I find to be incredibly disappointing about Lil Kim is her altered physical appearance. And frankly, it is NOT an improvement. She is barely recognizable and to be honest, L.K. reminds me of a miniature version of Latoya Jackson. We have all witnessed the unnecessary transformation of Kim. First was the breast augmentation that Kim so proudly modeled for us at 1999 MTV Awards. Do you recall that shrilling moment when Diana Ross couldn’t resist paying homage to her breast? I’m still flabbergasted by that one. This was a subtle change for Kim and although I didn”t agree with it, I still condoned her choice; she looked good.


Lets transcend to present day which is actually ten years later. Kim has not only added buxom boobs and an ample derriere to her petite frame but she has also changed her facial features as well. I could only imagine how her mother must feel about that one. These surgeries weren’t necessary or warranted as preventative. On the real, it could have been detrimental to her health. Let’s not forget about the unfortunate example Donda West has taught us.


Still bemused by Kim’s decision to plasticized her face, I’ve come to the following conclusion on why Kim chose this direction. Stating the obvious, Kim wasn’t loving herself unconditionally. She wanted to change what she thought were her imperfections. She didn’t love that nose, cheekbones, lips, and eyes. She felt her breasts were too small and her behind too flat. What Kim has to realize is that these are God’s gifts and to him we are all beautiful.

-shani anona