When Beauty Is Painful

24 01 2010

I remember many moons ago when I worked with children, I wore these really cute sandals one day to compliment my outfit. Now I knew this wasn’t a smart decision to wear uncomfortable shoes because with children you’re always on your feet but I adored the rave reviews I received from my co-workers so it balanced out. By the end of my day, I could barely move because my feet were extremely swollen and it was so painful to walk. I embraced it and took my bus ride home…practically begging for a seat and when I finally got one, it offered temporary relief. When my stop came and I stood up, my feet were numb and I could barely move. I slowly walked home and winced with each painful baby-step. I watched people as they walked pass me but I couldn’t move too fast from the menacing pain. I wanted to take off my sandals but was afraid to walk barefoot on the ground. By the time I reached my building I had enough and removed them but it didn’t offer any relief. My feet were swollen, blistered, and cut in fragile places; most of all, I couldn’t walk as a result. Of course the next day I couldn’t stand so I had to call out. I vividly recall what the principal said when I called in, “Shani, beauty is painful.” Back then I never really grasped that concept because it was a rare occasion that I would allow my vanity to override my comfort. Today, I fully understand the meaning of her statement. With so many celebrities going under the knife or conducting some sort of cosmetic surgery for the sake of their beauty, my principal’s words hold validity.

Heidi Montag is the latest celebrity to go public with her painful beauty journey…again! On her first trip many critics praised Heidi’s new look and actually said she looked better. According to them, her nose was perfected and buxom was added to her boobage. What ever happened to using make up to enhance features and where is the Wonder Bra for that extra boost to the cleavage?

Now on her encore round of surgeries, many critics are insisting that Heidi has become a cosmetic surgeon’s dream…someone who enjoys wasting money to have countless tweakings. And in my opinion, this blasphemy is totally unnecessary! What’s incredibly sad is how deluded Heidi is about her spirituality on reversing her looks which inevitably makes her seem older than 23 years. And the stress she puts her body through to look what she thinks is beautiful…is just sickening. Again another celebrity is sending a self-defecating message to younger legions of fans that they can alter what they think are imperfections. Let’s also remind them about the people who lost their lives to look beautiful and the pain that their families felt when those changes were final.


Can Lee Daniels Direct Another Oscar Home Run?

10 01 2010

Do you remember the day Halle Berry made history and became the first African-American woman to win an Oscar for the Best Actress in a leading role? I vividly recall her tearful speech from the 74th Academy Awards back in 2002. It was a heartfelt experience watching the strikingly beautiful Halle lose her calm composure and express her shock of winning for her gritty role in Monster’s Ball. Back then, I had mixed emotions about Halle’s outstanding achievement; On one hand, I was extremely proud of her but on the other disappointed that Halle had to remove her clothing to get the award. Today my opinion has drastically changed about her win. Halle received that accolade because she convincingly portrayed a person that was totally out of her character…a woman desperately seeking to feel good because the world was crumbling around her.

Well the nominations are out for the 82nd Academy Awards and Lee Daniels direction has brought two more talented actresses to the forefront. Gabourey “Gabby” Sidibe is up for Best Actress in a lead and Mo’Nique is following with Best Supporting. Gabby poignantly displayed that a rose can grow through concrete and Mo’Nique made ugliness look good! This year I will be watching the Oscars not just for the fashion but because I’m rooting for both of these women to win for their commendable work in Precious. I would like to watch Mo’ make a graceful speech as large tears stream down her face without smearing her make up. And although Gabby is up against one of my all time favorite actresses, Meryl Streep, I still think she’s going to pull a Jennifer Hudson! Stay tuned to see if I’m correct on March 7th 2010.

Believe in 2010

1 01 2010

Happy New Year Readers!

I’m writing this post on 2010’s special day, January 1st! It’s time to begin anew and build new memories. I for one am beginning my fresh start right. I’m pleasantly pleased to share with you that I was blessed with a new full-time assignment and my first day of work is January 4th! It took eleven grueling months and I’ve been on countless interviews but a door has finally opened. I’m so grateful to find a new employment home. If you are in a similar situation please lean on your faith that your time will come too. I know that’s easier said than done; I was even doubtful at times but no matter how hopeless I felt, I kept trying. Persevere!

Resolutions are traditional but I’ve decided not to cast one this year. In the past I would make one…okay, three and never achieved the goals that I set for myself. In 2010 I’m just going to BELIEVE and know that all my heart’s desires will happen for me when the time is right. No more expectations or disappointments; I’m just going to let God predict my future. Believe and it will happen!


Shani Anona