My TWA

28 06 2009

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On May 28th 2009, I officially became an all natural gal when I underwent my BC (Big Chop) on an impulse. For two months shy, I was transitioning for the second time and once again felt conflicted with the two textures of my hair. So I decided to skip the torment of balancing both my past and future hairdos and just cut it off. It was an surreal experience for me. It felt like a roller coaster ride as it coasted up that first hill, my stomach flipped and my heart-rate rose as the barber drew his clippers towards my head. Now as I’ve stated in my previous post, Back 2my Roots, I had cut my hair numerous times but this was different; I had an au naturel hairstyle.

What helped me with my journey was the extensive research I did on natural afro-hair. I purchased two terrific books, Hair Story: Untangling the Roots of Black Hair in America by Ayana Bird & Lori Tharps; this book has taught me about the history of black hair. I also picked up another find, Going-Natural: How to Fall in Love with Nappy Hair by Mireille Liong-a-kong which was my reference guide. You Tube was a tremendous help with all my How-To Goddesses: PRETTYDIMPLES01, FreeWorshipFreeWors, BlackOnyx77. I reviewed and practiced trial & error with countless natural hair products; not everything recommended worked for my hair texture because everyone has  unique hair.

My end results were successful and I feel liberated from my processed shackles; I spent 23 years with the ritual of straightening my hair. I’m no longer a black woman afraid of getting caught in the rain without an umbrella. I love to feel my untamed roots growing from my scalp and allowing it to flow unrestricted. I’m looking forward to my Pam Grier afro but for now I’m enjoying every minute of my TWA (Teenie Weenie Afro).

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Shani Anona





Remember The Time

26 06 2009

It happened on June 25, 2009 when our world forever changed. We lost a great talent to the music community; our King of Pop, Michael Jackson. I was stunned by the news because I was already saddened with the death of a Charlie’s Angel, Ms. Farrah Fawcett. I was praying for it to have been a nasty rumor which unfortunately happens to stars but when CNN confirmed it, I was convinced. I turned to Facebook and Twitter which was flooded with reflections of Michael. Someone brought me way back with posting his video with Paul McCartney “Say, Say, Say.” What was such a comfort was to see everyone had a favorite song or video to share about Michael. His music has unified people and touched all of our hearts.

My Michael Jackson obsession began back in the 80’s although he was around way before then. I was in love with him. I had Michael Jackson folders for school, his doll, a glove just to name a few. My cousin relentlessly teased me because I wasn’t into rap back then and only favored Michael Jackson’s pop music. Some of my favorite songs were Billy Jean and Beat It (had the piano shirt just like the one he wore in the video). Michael was a trendsetter; he made clothes, dance moves, and even Pepsi popular. His trademarks was his moonwalk, glitter glove, and those white socks. Countless people were slaves to his fashion no matter how ridiculous they looked, no one could tell them they weren’t “Bad.” I especially loved his perfect smile (my years of wearing braces makes me appreciate pearly whites).

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Although he was with us briefly, in his 50 years Michael Jackson has left a large legacy behind. His legendary voice will continue to captivate us in his music and his movements will be imitated by many flattered artists. Michael Jackson, we will always remember the time.

photo by strangerinitaly on flickr

photo by strangerinitaly on flickr





Jada Pinkett Smith & Hawthorne

17 06 2009

I don’t know about you but I was excited to see Jada Pinkett Smith return to the small screen. Her face was the headlining appeal that sweetened the deal for yet another hospital drama. Its been awhile since I seen Mrs. Smith although she was around and starred in movies Reign Over Me (2007) as Don Cheadle’s wife and The Women (2008) as an unconvincing lesbian. Both roles weren’t groundbreaking and if you blinked or even worse fell asleep like I did, you missed her performance.

TNT debuted Hawthorne on June 16th at 9pm (EST) and it posed a slight difference from its competitors with showcasing from a nurse’s perspective of handling traumas instead of the Md’s. From the first 5 minutes, Jada’s character was cast into immediate drama when one of her patients jumped off the roof after she called his bluff. She also struggled to retrieve his name on the DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) listing and he was resuscitated; Do I hear a lawsuit? To put a cherry on top of it all, her character was arrested and I actually laughed when she screamed that she worked there. The conflicts were lukewarm and the drama level was low. On the upside, I could forecast that Jada and Michael Vartan’s characters will eventually have an affair because their connection is evident. And adding Alicia Keys music to the background was also a pleasant touch.

It was a world wind of events but it has yet to astound me.  Because it’s Jada, I will return next week to give it another assessment before I rid it as a waste. For now, I’ll be at Showtime watching Edie Falco’s Nurse Jackie.





Interview Jitters

10 06 2009

I pride myself for being a great oral & written communicator but when it comes to speaking with an interviewer and filling out a job application, I start mumbling and can barely keep my hands straight. It gets really bad; I sweat so much, it looks like I stole something and no one wants to approach an appointment without your cool or swagger demeanor. There were times that I missed out on the opportunity to look my interviewer in the eye and give a firm handshake. And we all know that’s a must!

lewis chaplin on flickr

lewis chaplin on flickr

So I’ve learned a few techniques that helped me out during my stressful highs that I would like to share with you. During my travels to appointments, I always listen to calming music while I review my notes. It serves two purposes; the music will soothe my temperament and it will also block out distracting noises so I can study. I also carry a water bottle. Nothing is better to quench your eager thirst than water and it will cool you down instantly. Always arrive early and in order to get to your destination painlessly, wear comfortable shoes. I always wear flats and carry my heels. I’ve never been that type of female who could rock those stilettos or pointy-toes without wincing with pain.

Chrissy Hunt on flickr

Chrissy Hunt on flickr

These small tidbits helps me to conquer my nervousness and I’m able to concentrate on my deliverance as a viable candidate. What are your rituals that help you conquer the interview jitters?