Back 2my Roots

31 05 2009
Nodlem on flickr

Nodlem on flickr

For some time now I’ve been contemplating on returning back to my natural hair. I’ve had a relaxer taming my mane for a large part of my life; actually since I was 12 years old. I remembered begging my mama to give me a relaxer so our hair ritual would be less torturous for me; mama was heavy-handed and I was tender-headed, a real oil & water combination. Dark & Lovely was my first relaxer and because it was no-lye based it didn’t achieve my coveted look of long straight locks. Second attempt, I got me a relaxer with lye and it was the beginning of my 24 year old addiction to the creamie crack (also considered, a relaxer).

I was able to create some wonderful looks with my processed hair. I was completely versatile with my hairdos and enjoyed every minute of it. I rocked my hair down my lower back and accepted it as a compliment when asked if it was a weave; sported it short or cropped four times and felt like a hair model on each experience; had it color-treated on five occasions and decided the reddish tones were the most befitting. But after years of processing my hair it eventually became unhealthy and started breaking. I had weak spots in noticeable areas and felt actually embarrassed at times to rock my favorite ponytail.

When I became unemployed, I gave myself a break from the relaxing and went three months without it. And to make an extremely long story- short, my hair textures fought against each other and were so difficult to maintain, I immediately relaxed it again. Surprisingly, relaxing it wasn’t much better; it was such an unpleasant experience that my virgin hair could barely take. That solidified my decision to transition to back 2my roots.

-shani anona





Follow Up on CW’s The Game

21 05 2009

Fans of CW’s The Game, I have some disappointing news to share. I heard last night that the show has been officially canceled. I cannot not mask the incredible sorrow I feel with losing a show that appealed to both male/female fans and opened the door to so many of our taboo subjects. In its 3 year run, The Game has entertained us with those perfectly timed sardonic snaps, cleared the communication on issues that didn’t have a voice, and stroked our hearts with the realistic trials of relationships. Oh and lets not forget the fierce fashions that the characters wore…each episode felt like a runway show. The Game you will be sorely missed but as a dedicated fan, I will continue to watch your reruns on BET.

A special thanks to all the fans that petitioned for the continuance of the show.

-shani anona

mrcl and his camera on flickr

mrcl and his camera on flickr





Recovering From A Heartbreak

18 05 2009
bored-now on flickr

bored-now on flickr

A unique pulsation is what your heart generates for this special person but their actions don’t mimic your own. That wound is so deep it feels like it was punctured with a razor-sharpened knife. Everyone has suffered from the calamities of a heartbreak. It’s human nature to experience loss in love. It’s simply an inevitable part of life. How you recoup from your tragedy is something that only you can control. For some, moving onto another person instead of fully recovering is the route that works best; Others take their time to stitch wounds and assess over the damage. I’ve been on both sides before and I’ve learned that its healthy to patiently grieve any loss.

It takes time to fall unconditionally in love with a person and its best to allow yourself the same duration if needed to fall out of love too. On my last breakup, I was totally devastated and broken; felt like I was the victim of a two car collision, (and you know that’s gotta hurt). That was how crucially painful our separation was to me. The great news is that I survived and I’m here to share how I managed it. With lots of prayer, a bountiful of tears and strong shoulders to lean upon, I was able to release the majority of my pain. After the hurt came my anger and I found that great music tamed my savage-beast. There’s a plethora of songs that focus on heartbreak to choose from which proves that distress is highly marketable. Sade is a favorite and can heal any wounded soul. Its a combination of her soothing voice, intuitive lyrics, coupled with the acoustic sound of her band that makes her music so enchanting to me. If you prefer a hip-hop vibe to groove with, Kanye West’s 808’s & Heartbreak fits the cause. From the first hit, “Love Lockdown” Kanye exhaled his pain and discovery in each one of his tracks; the auto-tune is an added bonus. Once the pain and anger subsided, I was able to rationally review my situation and learn its true lessons. That’s how I recovered from my heartbreak. How do you weather your storm?





A Woman & Her Shoes

13 05 2009

Did my cardio the other day when I revisited the mall with a friend. I’ve become a skillful sightseer and learned to look, not touch. Any shopaholic knows that is the ultimate challenge because the feel is what determines a sale or not. Since I’m familiar with my weaknesses (shoes and bags), I painstakingly tried not to get too close to things that caught my interests. So I strolled into Saks with confidence knowing that the prices alone would control my addiction. Broke my oath (or spell) when I stumbled across the shoe section and found these lovelies. The brand…Cole Haan, the name…Geneveive OT Air Pump, the color… copper! I was instantly smitten and immediately picked up the shoe. I noticed a few more things: Peep-toe to showcase polished nails; generously padded with the Nike Air pump which gives it extra support for walking; perfect heel which is not too high or low, I’m not a fan of stilts or stilettos. The shoe was also on sale which would make it a keeper except it wasn’t low enough for an unemployed sister to purchase. I’m still in love and I know that I will find these shoes again when the time is right.

Cole Haan Genevieve OT Air Pump





Bravo’s The Fashion Show, A Hit Or Miss?

7 05 2009

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The Fashion Show will premiere tonight at 10pm EST on Bravo and I must admit I’m having mixed feelings. We all heard that Project Runway has moved to Lifetime (Season 6 debuts on August 20th at 10pm EST) and I’m skeptical to see if Bravo could rebound from such a huge lost. The Fashion Show will feature 15 professional designers who will compete to have a clothing line developed and a hefty $125, 000 prize. Kelly Rowland will serve as a host (as opposed to Heidi Klum) but I really don’t view Kelly as a fashion-forward type of gal. To be honest, she’s basically known for her popularity as the third member of Destiny’s Child. Designer Isaac Mizarhi will also share hosting duties which marks another subtle change, (will he provide the snark that Michael Kors is loved for on PR?) Both will also perform judging duties alongside with Senior Vice President of IMG Fashion, Fern Mallis. The differences that this show offers is that the contestants will now face two challenges within each episode, (a Harper’s Bazaar mini challenge & the usual elimination round). So do you think this show will be a hit or miss?





A Diet or Lifestyle Change?

7 05 2009

On April 30th Kirstie Alley made some deep confessions on The Oprah Winfrey Show about her Jenny Craig spokesperson aftermath. She was in denial about her tremendous weight gain until that paparazzi photograph exposed her grim reality. Using her frank sense of humor, Kirstie sat and confided to Oprah, (and her millions of viewers) what her action plans were to banish those extra pounds. She unmasked her disappointment for losing a few rounds in the battle of the bulge. Kirstie was brave enough to admit the obvious but she doesn’t stand alone with yo-yo dieting. I myself have been there and have finally realized the difference between a diet and a lifestyle change.

All my life, I’ve struggled with fluctuating weights and self-esteem issues. I seriously wanted to be thin and tried everything from starving myself to the Atkins diet in order to shed my heaviness. Putting myself on rigorous diet & exercise regimens quickly shed those unwanted pounds and I kept it off for years. But I knew someday my stressful-eating habits would reappear again and throw me in a tailspin. And when it revisited, I felt like Cinderella when she lost her glass slipper; my glamorous physique disappeared and my weight ballooned back up.

photo by bartmaguire on flickr

photo by bartmaguire on flickr

Now in my adult years, I don’t want to subject myself to a restricting diet and excessive work-out schedule in order to lose weight. Don’t get me wrong, I still believe in moderation and discipline but I know this is a journey not a destination. To me, dieting is a quick fix and doesn’t always give you lasting results. With time and commitment I will see the outcome that I have longed for. This is a personal lifestyle change which will forever alter my habits and lead towards my healthiness.

-shani anona





My Rainy Days

6 05 2009
lafemme on flickr

lafemme on flickr

We all have experienced it sometime or another…rainy days. You know those times when your most cheerful friend fails to lift your spirits and is quite annoying to be around. When comedies are ineffectual and you lean toward dramedies instead. When days are gloomy and you barely peek out your window let alone step outside for some fresh air. Well I have experienced these dampening conditions lately; both literally and figuratively speaking. We have been having so much rain, I haven’t opened my window shades in about a week. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m appreciative for our liquid sunshine but when it pours consecutively, its hard to leave my house. Never been the singing in the rain type; I’m more like the I don’t want my feet to get all squishy. This weather has symbolized the mood I’ve been beridden in lately… Stormy, just stormy! It was a challenge for me to lift myself out of my slumpy funk. How did I do it? I turned towards reading. I couldn’t get enough things to read to boggle my mind. I read web articles, books, and magazines. I made sure to fill my mind with all sorts of issues to escape my own quandaries and…it worked.  When you are moody, how do you relieve yourself?

-shani anona